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The DREADED Friendzone – a place of FULL commitment to boyfriend duties from YOUR end, and ZERO commitment of ANY perks from HERS.

No wonder girls friendzone guys left, right and center – it’s a win-win for them, and lose-lose for YOU.

Let me tell you something that will PINCH you even more now – the girl who FRIENDZONED you – wanted to FCUK you the FIRST time she SAW you – and then you defaulted to the Hindi Movie masala trope of TRYING to be her FRIEND.

So she obliged

And friendzoned you.

Anyway, BEFORE prescribing the CURE, a GOOD Doctor ALWAYS tells you HOW you fell ILL in the FIRST place. Now that we are DONE with HOW you landed YOURSELF in the friendzone, let’s get you started on the path to ENTERING the FCUK-zone.

1) Tell me if this is YOU – you are at her BECK and CALL – 24/7, 365 – after all – you WANT to be a GOOD friend to her – and the BETTER friend you are, the CLOSER you two will get and eventually FALL IN LOVE with you, right?

Yeah……

NO

STOP trying to be her FRIEND.

Don’t always be available.

Scarcity creates value.

The next time she calls or texts, if YOU don’t feel like picking up – don’t.

I BET SHE doesn’t always respond to your messages and calls IMMEDIATELY.

In fact, respond when YOU have nothing better to do – that’s what SHE does.

She wants to cry on your shoulder to help her get over a breakup? “You’ll get over it.”

She wants to vent about the state of the Indian Dating Market. “Don’t you have FEMALE friends to talk about this shit?”

She wants your input on how to get a date with a guy she likes? “Don’t BORE me”

She wants to cry and ask how to get over being cheated on. “Look, I gotta go, but you’ll be OK”

2) Do things WITHOUT her.

I bet EVERY time you want to go see a movie, or visit a new place, or just chill, SHE is ALWAYS your FIRST invite.

Is it any wonder WHY she feels she is the MOST important person in your World?

Make plans that DON’T involve her.

And don’t inform her.

Go have fun with OTHER people.

If she doesn’t KNOW those people – even BETTER

3) Talk to OTHER girls. 

Just don’t make a SHOW of it by doing it OVERTLY in front of it.

That will be SEEN for what it is – a TRANSPARENT attempt at making her jealous. Not only will she go ahead and make YOU jealous by flirting with other guys in front of you, she will be WISE to your game.

Best to start talking to other girls when she is not there.

Trust me, the info WILL reach her.

And that is what we want – intel of YOUR socialising with other chicks – given to her by OTHER chicks!

4) START your self-improvement journey

Start working out

Read a Book

Join a Cycling Club

Learn a new language

Join a Dance Class

Do something. 

ANYTHING – that will make you DIFFERENT. Better. Than the guy she knew you as.

Personally, I think joining a MMA will make the MOST difference for you.

5) Keep your Social Media updated

So that she KNOWS you are LIVING LIFE UP!

Don’t TAG her.

That will be TOO obvious.

You WANT her to SEE you

You DON’T want her to KNOW that you WANT her to see you.

Get it? 😉 

If you demote her to acquaintance

Have a life WITHOUT her

Talk to OTHER girls

Self improve in VERY obvious ways

AND keep giving her glimpses of your new life via Social Media

She will not only be missing the old you, she will be WANTING the NEW you

This will take any where from 6 to 12 months – depending upon how DEEP you were in the Friendzone, and HOW MUCH YOU IMPROVE YOURSELF.

But there is a JACKPOT

You WILL notice something if you do as I instructed.

I won’t reveal it to you RIGHT NOW – and no, it’s not her wanting MORE than just friendship from you.

I want to see HOW MANY of you ACTUALLY have the discipline and drive to go THROUGH with a 6-12 month long process.

Delayed – gratification is the NUMBER ONE predictor of success.

Get in touch with me when you find out what the JACKPOT is – I have a SURPRISE for you.

A PRIZE – for putting in the HARD work and following my directions.

I want You to WIN!

Take a look at this girl.

What would MOST men do if they saw her on the street?

Yep – you guessed it – they would just GAWK at her, WISHING they could go up to and talk to her.

And if she HAPPENS to make eye contact with them – they avert their eyes.

If you are one of these men, it’s OK – it’s not YOUR fault you can’t just confidently strut up to every girl you want and charm her pant(ie)s off – you can blame it on evolutionary psychology (approaching the WRONG woman in pre-historic times meant death, or best case scenario – perpetual singledom) and society (men are BAD, having sexual desires is WRONG, good men don’t look at women THAT way, women don’t want s3x – so on and so forth).

Even though it is not YOUR fault that you ARE this way, it is YOUR responsibility to CHANGE if you want success in the Indian Dating market – and that is EXACTLY why I am here.

To help YOU go – from an under-confident boy who freezes up any time he is around a pretty woman – to a self-assured confident man BEAUTIFUL women feel SHY around – no matter your height, skin colour, aesthetics, race, financial situation, etc. Make no mistake, these things MATTER (and we DO have courses to help you improve some of these areas of your life), but what matters MOST is your mindset and FRAME.

I want to help you find the solution to your PRESSING problem “How do I find a girlfriend?”

So let’s get started.

1.) Women are MUCH more afraid of YOU than you are of THEM – Imagine her

Weighs 40 kilos

Stands 5 feet 2 inches (sometimes in heels 😀)

Has the strength of a 12 year old boy

No hand eye co-ordination

Can’t go to the washroom alone

Screams when she is startled

Pees when she sneezes

And you are AFRAID of HER? I’ll wait till you are done laughing at yourself

Once you internalize that women are much more afraid of you than you are of them, you will realise that you are, IN FACT, not afraid of GIRLS – you are afraid of REJECTION.

2.) De-sensitise yourself – 

The VERY FIRST TIME you get rejected by a girl, you’ll FEEL very bad. Most guys get STUCK here – and NEVER approach a girl AGAIN.

Makes sense – getting rejected by a girl YOU like, HURTS – and you NEVER want to feel that way EVER again!

You have a choice – never feel that sting of rejection but also never get the girls you want
OR
Get over your fear of rejection AND approach EVERY GIRL you want.

For the sake of your masculinity, I HOPE you chose the SECOND option.

You EXPOSE yourself to rejection again and again and again.

This is EXPOSURE THERAPY. You DE-sensitise yourself to something unpleasant by WILLFULLY exposing yourself to it repeatedly over a span of time.

I am aware this sounds rough – and it IS in the beginning, but after a few times, girls rejections will roll off your back, and won’t affect how you feel.

We have  FANTASTIC in-field AND online courses where you can learn with an instructor HOW to go up to and talk to women. Click here to sign up!

3.) Body Language –

Most people are UNAWARE of their body language. Which is to be expected since it was very hard to be cognizant of your OWN body language ALL the time.

But you CAN remember a few KEY points.

ESPECIALLY when talking to women.

Keep your body relaxed – a bit LOOSE. Don’t be rigid, or stand stiff like a soldier.

Turn your body at angle to the girl you are interested in – facing her with your body telegraphs TOO much interest.

DON’T lean in Keep you arms and hands loose by your side or you can gesture with them as you talk. Don’t keep your hands in your pockets, crossed in front of your body, behind yourself, or worse – clasped over your crotch Don’t look DOWN – look into her eyes when you are talking to her.

Don’t have a BIG smile on your face – as a rule, with a girl you like – SMIRK, don’t smile – it is seen as placating Keep your face relaxed, and your expression calm or slightly amused. DON’T play a Varun Dhawan character from a comedy.

Breath evenly, and DEFNINTELY every time before you speak Speak SLOWLY, audibly.

These pointers a JUST a SMALL part of what we teach guys in our different webinars and in-field coaching. If you want to get your Body language ON POINT, sign-up here.

4.) You are not there to impress HER, she is there to impress YOU –

Most men when talking to women VERY ACTIVELY try to IMPRESS them. They will make jokes, try to sell themselves, agree with everything she says, and let her lead the conversation.

You can do that if you want to be FRIENZONED on the SPOT Girls want guys they can LOOK UP TO.

And she can ONLY look up to you IF she feels you are better than her.

And people DO NOT try to impress those lesser than them – only those ABOVE them.

So, by TRYING to impress her, you have SHOWN yourself to be inferior, and auto-rejected yourself.

Instead, approach every girl with the mindset of seeing whether SHE is good enough for YOU It doesn’t matter HOW pretty she is – beauty is common – you’re either BORN with it or you BUY it. You want to see if there is MORE to her than just her looks.

5.) Confidence –

Confidence is NOT the key to success with women.

SUPREME UNSHAKEABLE CONFIDENCE is And how do you build supreme unshakeable confidence?
Be NON-reactive.

Meaning you don’t JUMP to say or do anything, unless it is an emergency – and those are RARE.

Any time a woman says or does something to provoke a reaction, you PAUSE for a moment Take a deep breath Smile.

And then RESPOND.

Once you habituate yourself to these behaviours, meeting women will be a BREEZE. And these are JUST the TIP of the iceberg that is your COMPLETE TRANSFORMATION. If you wan to take your dating and relationships to the NEXT level, join us for our next Webinar HERE.

You will be training under someone who is not just a dating coach in India, but a COMPLETE Relationship Consultant who will train you to start, run and end relationships amicably. Having helped men from all walks of life with relationship advice ranging from “how to meet women near me” to “How to get over a breakup”

 If you have questions like “How to get a date?”, “How to get over being cheated on” or “How to get out of the friendzone?”, you are at the RIGHT place. Register here and take control of your Love Life.

Be her LEADER –

Equality is a LIE.

It doesn’t EXIST.

Men and women are NOT equal. They are NOT the same. MOST of relationship issues arise from THIS belief that men and women are the same – that they THINK and BEHAVE the same way.

NOPE.

Women want a LEADER. A man who takes the LEAD WITHOUT having told to do so.

What does it mean to be her Leader?

The way a parent LEADS a child. That you take MOST of the decisions, and ALL of the major ones. Where are you taking her for a date, where are you going for a vacation, which city do you want to settle in, where should you buy a house – just some of the examples where YOU as a MAN need to take the LEAD and take a decision.

Women HATE having to take decisions, but they LIKE THINKING they have the POWER to take them. If you want to learn how to balance both SMOOTHLY, sign up for one of our sessions, and we’ll notify you when the next slot opens up!

What being a Leader DOES NOT MEAN – Being a leader does NOT mean being a tyrant who NEVER listens to anybody else. You can take your girl’s inputs, give them DUE consideration, and then take a decision. It does not have to be what she wants – it NEEDS to be what YOU think is RIGHT.

Your girl may FRET initially if she doesn’t like what you decide – but will come to respect you in the long run. (e.g. turning down her demand to go on a foreign holiday when your budget does not allow it)

You two are NOT partners. You are in a superior – subordinate relationship. You are the Captain – she is NOT your co-captain – she is your flight attendant.

Don’t take her TOO seriously – Women say a LOT of things. Most of them are not to be taken at face value. She speaks her emotions. And her emotions are born out of her hormones. And her hormones fluctuate DAILY. Some days, she wants NOTHING to do with you, other days she can’t get enough of you, some days she is mad at you for NO reason, still other days she is lovey-dovey. If you try and talk to her about this, you will lose. Women do not argue within reason. They will emotionally reframe the argument and YOU WILL LOSE.

PRO – TIP: Know her menstrual cycle – You will be able to predict WHEN she is horny, when her mood will be off, etc. An ex of mine used to ROUTINELY start fights when her exams and her menses co-incided.

So, do not take her so seriously ALL the time.

e.g.

Her: I hate you!

You: I hate you too (with a smile and wink)

Her: You NEVER listen to me!

You: Huh? (cup your ear and make an exaggerated motion of trying to hear what she is saying)

Her: I’m LEAVING you!

You: Thank God! My NEXT girlfriend is TIRED of waiting!

Change her MOOD, not her MIND – – there are going to be times when you DO fcuk up or she IS REALLY mad at you for WHATEVER reason. Most men make the mistake of talking to a girl the SAME way they would try and calm things down with a man- by talking LOGICALLY.

Women are not the same as Men.

They DO NOT respond well to LOGIC, especially when they are emotional.

So don’t try to CHANGE her MIND

Change her MOOD.

Chaser vs Chasee – There is a CHASER in every relation, and a CHASEE. One party ALWAYS care MORE about the other. You as a man need to be the one who cares LESS

Why?

Because women are HYPERGAMOUS. Meaning they want a man who is BETTER than them. And when they are the ones CHASING the man for most of the relationship, they are satisfied that they are with someone BETTER than, cuz otherwise, the man would be chasing.

DO NOT try to make her HAPPY – The EASIEST way to make a women UNHAPPY, is to give her everything she wants.

Yes, you read that right.

Saying NO – You must have seen men who bend over backwards to make their girl/wife HAPPY.

The man takes her on foreign holidays, buys her luxury cars, sprawling mansions, haute couture, teaches the kids, does the laundry – she says it, he does it – only for the woman to grow EVEN MORE IRRITATED with the man.

That is because she is TESTING the man by making increasingly outrageous demands.

She WANTS him to say NO.

Only he doesn’t and digs himself DEEPER into a pit of despair which will end with her cheating, and then leaving him with half his money, most of his dignity and ALL of his kids.

Start saying NO to things that don’t FEEL right in your gut.

Setting and ENFORCING boundaries – Having healthy boundaries is a crucial part of being a well-rounded human being. And this is even more important in context of a romantic relationship. You decide for yourself how you will be treated as a person by others. The others can either choose to adhere to your rules for behaving with you, or they can choose not to interact with you at all – what they cannot do is VIOLATE your boundaries. E.g. one of earlier girlfriends addressed me by name. I looked at her calmly for a second, then told her she can address me as Sir/”aap” OR she can never talk to me. I was not angry as I said this – I was polite but forceful. She fretted but came around in 24 hours.

Women RESPECT you when they can tell – that you WILL walk away from them if they violate your boundaries.

Fcuk her well –

Yes, you read that right as well

S3x is the GLUE that holds romantic relationships together.

A girl’s s3x life determines how calm and submissive she is OUTSIDE the bedroom towards her husband.

Most men have the lovey-dovey kind of s3x that they have seen in romance movies.

Sure, women LIKE romantic s3x – 10 to 20% of the time.

The REST of the time they want to BE FCUKED.

HARD.

Like they show in P0RN.

Yes, P0RN.

Now I am not suggesting you get addicted to p0rn.

But KNOW that 80% of the time, your girl wants to be RAVAGED.

She WANTS to FEEL YOUR STRENGTH.

That FEELING of your strength is what makes her submissive, servile, and respectful OUTSIDE the bedroom.

And if you are a nice guy who is concerned about HURTING your girl, don’t worry – girls are PRETTY tough when it comes to s3x – and if you are going TOO hard – she will TELL you.

And you don’t have to be Casanova to be good in bed.

Fcuk her hard, smack her ass, pull her hair – not necessarily in that order.

You’ll be fine.

Remember – the s3x is 80% for YOUR satisfaction.

Girls WANT you to use their body for YOUR satisfaction.

YOUR lust turns THEM on

It PLEASES them to PLEASE you.

ALL your insecurities surrounding s3x as a Man, come from this idea of PLEASING the woman.

It has been DRILLED into our heads by mainstream media that men need to SATISFY women.

WRONG

This stems from the idea discussed before – NEVER try to make a woman happy.

It is not YOUR job to satisfy HER in bed or otherwise.

It is HER job to IMPRESS you!

She WANTS to know that her body brings you pleasure.

Once this mind shift occurs in your brain, your paradigm will shift from servant to predator – you are not there to serve her pleasure, you are a predator there to “devour” her body.

Do WHATEVER comes to your mind.

Don’t ASK

DO.

Don’t ask her to change positions, just throw her into the position you want.

Don’t ASK her if something feels good – ASSUME it does – she WILL tell you if something doesn’t feel good.

Fcuk her like to you PAID for her.

The bedroom is THE LAST PLACE a woman wants to be respected.

If you want to learn HOW TO FCUK drop us an email and we will get in touch.

Make your purpose your FIRST priority-Most men grow up believing that FINDING a girl and making her happy is their LIFE’s priority.

WRONG.

Your MISSION is your FIRST priority.

Your hobbies, your family, your friends, your PETS come after that.

Your girl comes fourth or fifth.

AND she is HAPPY knowing that she does!

Girls DO NOT want to be NUMBER ONE in your life!

And if you TRY to make them your PRIME duty, they will resent you for it!

Long ago, I heard the interview of an Army Wife.

She was GUSHING how the FIRST time she met her now Army husband, he clearly told her he was already married to the love of his life.

The Army

Any nice guy would think the girl would be MAD hearing this and would reject the proposal

QUITE the contrary.

She MARRIED him and VERY was proudly narrating the story of how they met.

Girls DO NOT want to be Number 1 in your life.

Make your mission your priority.

It can be your job, your side hustle, your health, your studies, your business, WHATEVER.

ANYTHING.

Anything but HER.

She NEEDS to see you PASSIONATE about something OTHER than other.

DO NOT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOUR – Seems obvious, but many men fall into this trap of rewarding BAD behavior. Now I am not saying men buy women gifts for being bad to them. No, what I mean is women will PURPOSELY start fights or create drama when they want attention. And attention is THE BIGGEST reward for women. Attention is to women what s3x is to men – only attention is MORE valuable to women. So, the next time a girl is behaving in a way that you do not approve of, DO NOT respond to her – do NOT give her any attention. Let her calm down and articulate her grievance in a MATURE manner. Until she does, you REMOVE your attention. You DO NOT try to calm her or worse, argue with her – that is doing EXACTLY what she wants.

DO NOT let her manipulate you – Girls as young as six know how to climb up on to their Father’s lap, cry fake tears and get the Dad to do their bidding.

Women ONLY respect men they CANNOT manipulate.

Women can only LOVE men they RESPECT.

If you want to FINALLY take control of your DATING and RELATIONSHIPS, sign up

Let’s be HONEST here for a second – you don’t want a GIRLFRIEND – you want a girl to HAVE S3X WITH. Most guys STILL believe that you HAVE to be in a relationship with a girl – i.e. MAKE her your girlfriend – for her to ALLOW you to have s3x with her. I assure you – NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH. What if I told you, girls ROUTINELY have s3x with guys they JUST met? YES, DESI girls, studious girls, shy girls, conservative girls, village girls, salwar suit wearing, speccy, oiled hair in a braid girls – ALL fcuk on the FIRST date! Western culture has permeated everywhere mobile internet has. Girls in villages are watching the SAME movies and listening to the SAME songs that ULTRA modern girl in South Delhi or Mumbai. They want to live the SAME lifestyle they see in those movies – hookups, causal s3x, MULTIPLE boyfriends – and they do ALL this WHILE maintaining the facade of the quintessential GOOD GIRL. Now that you have been disabused of the notion that, in order to have s3x with a girl, you NEED to make her your girlfriend, let me add that if she has a LOT of VALUE BEYOND being a HOT girl who has s3x with you WHENEVER you want (and her being HOT IS important since a LOT of guys are having s3x with girls they are NOT attracted to), THEN you can consider making her your gf. ANYWAY, enough with the buildup. Let’s answer that BURNING question – HOW DO I FIND A GIRLFRIEND.

The Indian Dating Scene is MESSED UP. Let’s help you make some sense of it – the STRAIGHTFORWARD way to find a girl to have s3x with is to go to a night club. There you can meet plenty of girls, talk to a lot of them, dance with a few, and possibly take one HOME the SAME night. Of course, you’ll have to PAY the cover charge. Just make sure you don’t BUY anything for any girl – that is ONE sure shot way of getting USED, and showing girls you are a LALLU who doesn’t know how girls OPERATE. Girls usually don’t spend ANYTHING in a club – because of guys who keep buying them drinks and food. PRO TIP: Whenever a girl asks you to buy her a drink, smirk, and tell her you don’t buy drinks for girl – but she can buy YOU one. Don’t STICK to one girl like glue. Just because she is talking to you does NOT mean she LIKES you LIKE THAT. Girls flirt with dozens of guys in the club, dance with a few, make out with some on the dance floor, suck another one off in the bathroom, and hook up with a another in his car outside.

The SECOND way is Dating Apps or Social Media. And for those who say social media is NOT for dating, allow me to tell you – Instagram is the BIGGEST dating app in the WORLD! If you want to meet girls via dating apps or Social media – your pics and vids ARE PARAMOUNT. You WILL NEED professionally shot photos and videos – unless you can create professional quality results YOURSELF. Make no mistake, your pictures will MAKE or MAR your chances online. Once you are done with the pics and vids, work on your bio. Don’t make it COMPLICATED, don’t try to sound SMART (e.g. using BIG words like IDIOSYNCRACIES), and don’t SELL yourself (e.g. I am an Investment Banker). The bio needs to be SHORT, FUN and INTRIGUING. I used to give out my own bio as an example, but people just started copy-pasting it, so I had to stop. Get in touch with me if you want your bio crafted. MOST importantly – make SURE the profile, the pic, the bio are CONGRUENT to YOU – don’t try to be someone you are DEFINITELY NOT e.g. a chocolate boy trying to act like a bad boy. The point of your online profile is to talk to her and quickly get her off the app by taking her number. DO NOT be the LALLU who accepts her instagram – that means NOTHING and is just a means to ADD you to her list of orbiters (read losers). In 5-6 back and forth sentences, say, “let’s get off the app, what’s your number”. DO NOT be her texting buddy. If she is taking TOO long to respond, or says she needs to get to know you better, go silent – she does not like you like that and is JUST USING YOU for attention WHILE talking to the guy she REALLY wants – who is leaving HER on read. Some guy WAY below you is tired of FCUKING that girl YOU are pining for – ALWAYS keep that in mind.

The THIRD way is, if there is already a girl you LIKE and want. Basically, there is a girl you already know who may be in your class, your office, your gym, etc. whom you want to have ‘private’ relations with, lol. I have a guide SPECIALLY tailored for that.

Click HERE to get a FREE SAMPLE of it.

The FOURTH way is to cold approach girls you like going about your life. You see a cute girl at the Mall – you walk up to her and her friends, talk to them, take her number and get her out on a date. This takes the MOST courage, and is, by FAR, the most rewarding. THIS is the simplest answer to the common question I get asked – how to meet women near me.

If you want to learn from me, one on one, in-field, how to go up to any girl and ask her out on a date, drop me a DM, and we’ll see when the next coaching slot opens up.

How to get a date part is EASY. It is the RELATIONSHIP that is more complex – which is why I started giving relationship advice for MEN. People also call me a dating coach but I am MUCH more than that – because dating is a SMALL part of what I do and teach.